Friday, March 13, 2020

Chinese New Year 2020 | Family Walk in Chinatown

I was really excited about Chinese New Year 2020 because after a long wait, it's finally the year of my zodiac animal - the Rat!!

Every Chinese New Year, we have a family tradition to take a little stroll in Chinatown to soak in the festivities and take photos with the decorations.

By the time CNY rolled round in end Jan 2020, the covid-19 outbreak {or as is it was previously known as Wuhan virus, nCov etc.} alert was already pretty high and people were already staying indoors more and practising social distancing.

I thought perhaps we weren't able to make it to Chinatown this year and was a tad disappointed since this year was extra special to me, but the boy said we can still pop by a while to take some pics as long as we stay away from the crowds.

Well, why not? I mean, not that there would be much of a crowd anyway...?

So off we went to snap some shots and eat kueh tutu and muah chee from our fave shop there. We didn't walk the outdoor bazaar streets at all. 

Lil Pumpkin and her daddy in their signature pose!!

Yes, Lil Pumpkin ain't that little anymore haha... she is about 3/4 the height of the boy now!!! I'm amazed that he can still carry her on his shoulders this year haha.

One day Lil Pumpkin will outgrow his shoulders, but she will never outgrow his heart (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤ #daddysgirl

One selfie with my boo...

I could not resist getting new cheongsams for CNY and bought 2 new ones from a local boutique, The Missing Piece, for the season. I loved them so much that promptly after, I bought another 5 pieces ahahaaaah....

I'm wearing a gorgeous ultramarine blue cape cheongsam from their signature collection here. I love the cut and feel of this modern CS so much I bought the same one in red hehe... It’s fitting but not stifling, and the stretchy cotton material makes it oh-so-comfortable. I’ve been doing more hip thrusts in the gym for a stronger posterior chain so my butt is bigger than before and I was kinda worried that the tailored skirt won’t fit honestly.

HOWEVER this cheongsam covered my curves perfectly like a glove!(‘∀’●)♡ The soft capes also drape beautiful over my arms {good for hiding fat haha} and the little waist cut-outs that give an illusion to an even smaller waist are very flattering. I haven’t raved abt an outfit for a very long time but yes, I’m so in love with this!

When I'm up for it I'll do reviews on the other pieces too *fingers crossed*

Covid-19 may be here to stay for a long while but let's not let it put too much of a damper on how we live our daily lives with our loved ones.

Stay safe and healthy, everyone! 2020 can still be a bright and beautiful year! (>^_^)><(^o^<)

More Chinese New Year posts:

Monday, March 2, 2020

Happy 17th Anniversary! (。♥‿♥。)

Today the boy and I celebrate 17 years of being together (。’▽’。)♡

If you've been here long enough, you'd know that the boy and I are university sweethearts. I met him when I was 19, so I was thinking recently how strange / uncanny it is that in a few more years, we will be together even longer than we have been without one another....

At 17 years, we do feel like 老夫老妻 and life goes by in a kind of peaceful way with our fixed schedules but I wouldn't call it boring. We may not be lovey-dovey young lovebirds anymore, but we have grown as a couple and show love in a different, more matured way.

Less extravagance, more understanding and more tolerance. That's the secret to growing old together I guess? haha..

Happy anniversary to us, dear PoogeoThank you for loving me the past 17 years.

Thursday, January 30, 2020

Chinese New Year 2020 | 新年快乐!万事如意!♥

Happy Chinese New Year from our family to yours!! Today is 大年初六 so I'm not too late in my greetings haha #phew

We all had a nice long break for CNY! The boy and I went back to work yesterday but Lil Pumpkin's school only opened today so this is her first day back. I think they should have just given the kids the whole week off.. especially with the Wuhan virus going around.

That sure is a damper on the holidays, isn't it?

Last year Lil Pumpkin and I caught some horrible viral infection that caused us to be knocked out for about 2 weeks but thankfully, we've been relatively healthy this Chinese New Year break.

Here's wishing you all much health, wealth and happiness in this new year! 恭喜发财!

While I'm at it, here's my New Year greeting card for 2020! THIS I know I'm late in posting to the blog hahaha...


More Chinese New Year posts:
Family Chinatown Walk in 2018

Wednesday, January 8, 2020

Our Tween's First Period / Menstrual Cycle

2020 sure started off with a big bang!! Lil Pumpkin got her first period on Fri 3 Jan 2020.

To be honest, I was a bit apprehensive about writing on this topic, as it still is somewhat a taboo topic in our society even in these modern times. There's still a stigma around having your menstruation as it is perceived as unclean and embarrassing, and is not often talked about in public {especially Asian societies?} or even in private among family or friends.

However, it is a milestone for Lil Pumpkin to have her first period, and truth be told, it is a milestone for our whole family! Just like her first time crawling, her first time standing on her own, her first time walking, her first time eating solid food, her first time sleeping through the night... I am very proud and happy of my little girl for hitting this milestone. If I'm not afraid to write those down on my blog so that I don't forget the details, why should I about this?

Don't worry, I won't go into any gory details but just mainly what's been happening and how we've been feeling the past few days when Lil Pumpkin got her first period last week. 

Having our period is a natural process for a woman, and signifies her coming-of-age. There's really nothing to be embarrassed about, and indeed, that is something that I've been emphasizing to Lil Pumpkin too. There's no need for her to feel scared or ashamed about having her period. It is normal. 

Of course, I've been emphasizing that to her not just because it's how I feel about it, but also because I recognise that because she has it now when most of her friends haven't yet, and because she has contact with young boys who may not understand what it's like for a girl to have her period, Lil Pumpkin may get teased or made to feel uncomfortable. 

She needs to have that inner strength and knowledge to not be affected by the unnecessary teasing she might encounter due to her menstruation.

We have actually been preparing her for a while for her first period and puberty by talking to her about it, getting her to read The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls {might do a review of that later} and this year, I even prepared a "period kit" with a small pouch filled with sanitary pads, clean undies and a small plastic bag {to put her dirty undies in} for her to bring to school.

Usually girls get their first period when they are 10 - 12 years old. I got mine when I was about 12 if I remember correctly. I was expecting Lil Pumpkin's first period to come maybe at the end of this year, or even next... but not so soon as last Friday! Lil Pumpkin was surprised too.

Nevertheless, she's been experiencing puberty and a growth spurt the past year so we really shouldn't be that startled.

It started with some blotchy spots and discharge on her undies which she didn't think to tell us, then she felt like she had a stomachache so told the boy, who asked me to check on her.

Thankfully, I was home sick from work and was able to be there for her that day. Poor dear must have been kind of confused about what's happening! I checked her undies and saw the spots and discharge so deduced that she was having her first period.

When her flow started, it was pretty heavy and she had to change her pads even more often than I usually do. There were a few mishaps, but I taught her how to deal accordingly if it happened at home/ school etc. and she's learning fine. She was apologetic but I told her there's nothing to be sorry about. Just remember to pass us the dirty laundry to wash asap before it stains (๑•́ω•̀๑)

As of today, which is Day 6, she is still bleeding... but I think it should end today or tomorrow. I read that the first period often is very heavy and painful. Ovulation helps make a “normal” period. Unfortunately, many girls do not ovulate in the beginning, resulting in heavy bleeding.

Luckily for Lil Pumpkin, she does not have much period pains {like me}. She says that she has cramping, but it is not debilitating pain {although I did warn her that some girls experience that} and she still seems as active as before. No change in appetite or behaviour too. 

I'm glad that her first period came on a Friday at home, so that she had time to adapt and deal with the change over the weekend while I was home with her too. An important milestone like this really calls for patience, time and care from parents. 

The past few years we've been kind of "cruising" as parents. Lil Pumpkin is an easy-going child and relatively independent. We don't really need to worry about her daily life or make considerable efforts in taking care of her outside our usual family routine. We had everything down to a pat.

Suddenly since she got her period, it feels like she's a baby all over again whereby we have to teach her new skills on how to use new items, how to take care of her developing body, how to vocalise and deal with all these new emotions and thoughts that she might be having etc.

And yet suddenly since she got her period, it feels like the teenage years are nearer than we thought and as parents we are unlocking a whole new level! We are navigating new, murky waters and need to have new skills on how to support her new growing mind and body, hormones, need for privacy, possible defiance as she tries to define her own identity and... boys???!

Yikes. God give us the strength and wisdom to deal with this new season in our lives.

My darling daughter is no baby no more, but I know that she will always be my baby girl

P.S. I need to give a shout out to the boy who has been nothing but a supportive dad to Lil Pumpkin when she got her first period. He didn't shun the topic, make light of the situation or caused her to feel embarrassed. He helped to clean up her mess and mishaps, gave her tips on how to take care of herself and eat well, and was very reassuring, as he always is. Thank you, Poogeo.

Any tips on handling a tween / teenage daughter?
Do you remember how your first period went?