I guess after the death of a loved one, it is apt to be thankful for Life. I believe that is the way that your loved one who passed away would like you to live as well - to keep calm and carry on.
We attended the funeral of my grandmother over the past few days. It was a simple, traditional funeral which included a lot of monks praying and chanting. My family do not believe in the Buddhist rites performed, but we took part out of respect to my grandmother and her beliefs. The little pumpkin was there but she did not take part in the funeral proceedings because she was too young. I'm glad that the little pumpkin managed to meet her great-grandmother at least once before she died though. Having descendants is very important in Asian families, so I'm sure my grandmother was happy to be able to live and see her great-grandchild growing well.
Being at the funeral, made me reflect a lot on my own life. Have I been living it the way that I wanted to? Have I been treating the people I love right? If I died right now, have I done all that I wanted?
If I were honest with myself, I think the answers to all the questions would be "no", actually. There's a lot more that I want to do, and a lot more that I can do for the people I love, be it family or friends. I have a tattoo at my lower back which says 「我が人生に悔いなし」, which literally means 「no regrets in my life」. I got it in my *ahem* younger days when youths live fearlessly and dreams are alive. Then somehow, things slowed down and the monotonous "duties" of being an adult came along.
The tattoo and its meaning kind of slipped away. But, I remember it now and its meaning is even more poignant amidst the recent events. Cherish your living loved ones, chase your dreams, and live a life of no regrets. And be thankful for Life that you still have the opportunity to do those things. Don't wait until it is too late, just do it.
Thank you to those who sent their well wishes and kept us in your prayers. I hope that you too will be living life to the fullest.
Sharing at Jess's today since Kate is away on hols!