Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Letter to my girl #14 | Make Time for Friends

Dear Lil Pumpkin,

Over the weekend we met up with a few of Daddy and Mummy's friends. First, we celebrated Uncle Jith's daughter, Baby Isa's first birthday! She's such a beautiful little girl and it was wonderful seeing how gentle and kind you are with her, even though sometimes you do play kinda rough :P You will make such a good older sister my dear.

Your Daddy and I have known Uncle Jith for at least 10 years since our university days. He is a very supportive friend and we are blessed to have him in our lives. He was even the emcee at our wedding dinner and have seen us through many milestones in our relationship too.

Although we don't meet up as often as we used to because of all our busy schedules, whenever we do get together, we just pick up where we left off. Yes we are a little older, we have kids, we don't study through the night together with cookies & milk anymore and we may have gotten a little chubbier {except for your Daddy bleh}, but somehow it feels like nothing much has changed. We're all still old chums :)

The next day, we met up with Mummy's dearest besties- Aunt Mazyen and Aunt Susu. Oh goodness, I've known them even longer.. close to 20 years!! Isn't it amazing how long friendships can last? They have helped Mummy through some rough patches too and I'm so grateful to have them around.

Our precious little one, as much as family is important, so are friends. True friends who will be there to support and believe in you. True friends who will not judge you and tell you exactly what you need to hear, even if you don't want to hear it. True friends who will stand by your side, even if they are not physically there.

As we get older, we see that it's more important to have true friends, and less important to have lots of them. Life is not about being in a popularity contest. Choose your friends wisely, and I hope that Daddy and Mummy will be there to help you out in this area too. Sure there will be a few hits and misses, and some friends may turn out to hurt you.. but don't let that discourage you from making other friends.

Lil Pumpkin, remember that the most important thing about having true friends, is to be one yourself too. Appreciate your friends. Make time for them. Be there for them. In turn, they will appreciate you, make time for you, and be there for you as well.

May you always be surrounded by family and true friends who love you.

Love always,
Mummy

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13 comments:

Masshole Mommy said...

Making time for friends is essential and I think it's even more important as we get to be adults.

Leanne said...

Agree!
Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

Sophie Allen said...

Very valuable lesson to teach, and so much more powerful when she sees it in action. #teamIBOT

Susan said...

A very good reminder :)

~Summer~ said...

This is so sweet and true, Ai. I only realise that as we grow older, it's not about having a big circle of friends but it's about having a few ones who truly matter and will stick by you for better or for worse. Thank you for the reminder and I know Lil Pumpkin will be a most awesome friend to have when she grows up!

mail4rosey said...

This is a wonderful letter. Good friends really are awesome in more ways than we can count. I love the matching dresses you and your little one have on. :)

alissa apel said...

I need to see some friends that I just don't see often enough.

Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me said...

A very sweet and wise letter, it's taken me a few years to figure out people but I finally have, sadly I've meet some not so great ones along the way :( xx

Grace said...

Another beautiful letter, Ai. Having lifelong friends is so important and so is teaching our children their priceless value.

Lil Pumpkin is looking more and more like a little lady! x

Ai Sakura said...

Masshole Mommy: Yeah as adults it becomes more apparent that it's not the quantity, but quality that counts!

Leanne: :)

Sophie: It's a good thing my friends love her too!

Summer: thank you! hope she gets to meet up more with your 2 gals actually~

mail4rosey: thank you! one of my fave sets too heh

Emily: I think the not so great ones make us treasure the great ones even more xox

Grace: oh yes she's growing so big too fast!

EssentiallyJess said...

So important for kids to see this! Boatman and I don't have any real lasting friendships. It's a bit sad really. We do catch up with lots of people on different occasions though, so that's hopefully a positive role model.

Kathy - yinyangmother said...

This is very lovely advice. I feel the same about old friends, even if we don't see them that often, but I do miss not having a few more friends who are great friends, and close by.

Cherry said...

This is such a heartwarming letter, Ai. Indeed, we don't need a lot of friends but just a few who will stick with us through thick and thin.