Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Letter to my girl #12 | A Lesson about Being Kind

Dear Lil Pumpkin,

This happened last weekend. We were out at the supermarket and suddenly heard a loud tumble. We turned around and saw that a lady had bumped into a fruits counter and packets of oranges fell to the ground. As the lady was young and able, your father and I continued our conversation and didn't give much thought about it.

We then turned to talk to you, and realised that you had gone to help the lady pick up the oranges. All by yourself, without being told. And that's when your father and I felt slightly embarrassed for not reaching out to help.

You see my dear, often times, we give out help because we feel {or think} that others deserve our help. An old lady crossing the road. A pregnant lady that comes on the train looking for a seat. A guy with the broken leg picking up his book. It's very apparent that all these are people in need, and people who deserve help.

But how does one make that choice? Is it even right to reason to help? I mean, if the situation calls for it but it seems like the person can settle the problem by him/ herself, do we still step in? Perhaps this why some people find it easier to help those in poor countries like Africa or India, than their fellow countrymen in developed countries.

It might not even be about physical abilities. Some people might have flawed characters or are so mean, that usually people won't want to help them if the situation arose because they "don't deserve it".

Lil Pumpkin, you're so innocent and pure that you don't see it that way. If someone needs help, you'll just do it. No. Questions. Asked. It doesn't matter if the person deserves it or not. To you, being kind is being kind and you instinctively show compassion and kindness. You don't care if you're rewarded or praised, but just do it simply because you feel it's the right thing to do. For the cause and not applause.

And I really love that about you. It's true that you still have a lot to learn about life, but thank you for opening my eyes up to this valuable lesson of what it really means to be kind.

Love always,
Mummy


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16 comments:

Tat said...

You've got such a kind little girl and you're wise to appreciate the lesson. Often our kids can teach us as much about life as we can teach them.

♥.Trish.♥ Drumboys said...

Your lil Pumpkin is a beautiful kind girl - you are doing a great job obviously teaching her too.

Eleise Hale said...

What a sweetheart. I do love the kindness of children and how they can teach us so much.

Theresa Mahoney said...

You have to love the pure minds of children. Not tainted by the outside world quite yet, so they are able to show compassion without restraint. Way to go Lil Pumpkin!

Jaz Roy said...

What a beautiful post, made my eyes well up. Children are the most precious creatures and they are sent here to teach us lessons just as much as we are they, what a gorgeous girl you have :)

Stacy said...

Aww. The lady, young and able though she might have been, would have appreciated the help and that should have been reason enough to offer it. Good lesson to us jaded adults!

Ai Sakura said...

Tat: thanks Tat, there's certainly a lot to learn through the children's eyes each day :)

Trish: thank you :)

Eleise: She makes me so proud to be her mama!

Theresa: I know.. wish I was more like her.

Jaz: They really are so amazing, aren't they?

Stacy: Exactly how DID we become like this?? haha

oomph. said...

we learn just as much from our kids...thanks for sharing your story.

Grace said...

Oh, Ai. This brought a tear to my eye. I love how our children's innocence can teach us so, so much x

Kathy - yinyangmother said...

Your daughter is so sweet and such a great reminder of how much we can learn from our kids. I reckon her actions speak both of her childhood innocence AND your parenting. I'm sure you are very proud.

Masshole Mommy said...

Awww, how sweet that she went over and helped. You're definitley doing something right ;)

hopefulraeofsunshine said...

You must be so proud of your kind little angel xxx Such a lovely post xx

Sophie Allen said...

That would be a very proud moment! Sounds like she is learning life lessons pretty well! #teamIBOT

Serenely said...

It's always so humbling to see real love and kindness being displayed in our children so spontaneously.

Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me said...

Oh Ai (and hubby ) she obviously had learned how to be so gracious and caring from you both. Be proud. Em xxx

Susan said...

What a proud mummy moment it must have been for you and your hubby. Well done little pumpkin :)