Friday, October 6, 2017

The Last Time - Parenting Inspiration for the Tired Soul

There certainly are days when I feel so tired, beaten and worn. Even now. Especially now?

It's been 8+ years since I became a mother and sometimes just as I feel like I'm getting the hang of this parenting gig, new challenges and struggles appear.

Indeed, parenting is a journey with so much to learn everyday.  The saying "Parenting isn't a practice. It's a daily learning experience" certainly holds true! 

But, I'm glad that I've the boy by my side as my light, my confidant, my partner in this parenting journey. He keeps me steady, gives me faith and reminds me of the important things that matter when I'm just about to lose it.

And boy, have I been close to losing it recently!! Lil Pumpkin's having school exams for the first time this month so I've been spending more time revising work with her. Maybe I'm stressing over her exams more than I should {c'mon, she's only P2!!}, but coupled with juggling work, gym and other family chores... my patience is low, temper high and overall being a very grumpy mummy.

The boy and I had a chat on Tuesday during breakfast before work and helped me to put things in perspective though. These hard times may be tiring to bear, but as they come, they too will go and there will be a last time for everything. We must cherish the fleeting moments, both good and the bad, and make them count. 

I remembered a poem I read sometime back, The Last Time, prayed more, and felt my burden somewhat lighter ❤ I hope that if you're feeling a little tired for whatever reasons in your own parenting journey, you'd be uplifted with the words below too:

From the moment you hold your baby in your arms,
You will never be the same.
You might long for the person you were before,
When you had freedom and time,
And nothing in particular to worry about.
You will know tiredness like you never knew it before,
And days will run into days that are exactly the same,
Full of feeding and burping,
Whining and fighting,
Naps, or lack of naps. It might seem like a never-ending cycle.

But don't forget...
There is a last time for everything.
There will come a time when you will feed your baby
for the very last time.
They will fall asleep on you after a long day
And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.

One day you will carry them on your hip,
then set them down,
And never pick them up that way again.
You will scrub their hair in the bath one night
And from that day on they will want to bathe alone.
They will hold your hand to cross the road,
Then never reach for it again.
They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles,
And it will be the last night you ever wake for this.

One afternoon you will sing 'the wheels on the bus'
and do all the actions,
Then you'll never sing that song again.
They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,
the next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.

You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your
last dirty face.
They will one day run to you with arms raised,
for the very last time.

The thing is, you won't even know it's the last time
until there are no more times, and even then,
it will take you a while to realise.
So while you are living in these times,
remember there are only so many of them and
when they are gone,
you will yearn for just one more day of them
For one last time.

- Author unknown


An Apel a Day said...

Yes parenthood is tiring at times, and rewarding during other times.

I think middle school is a trying time. It's full of hormones. They want to be independent, yet need help with things as well.

Theresa Mahoney said...

It's okay to feel burnt out and frustrated, but I do agree that we must cherish each obstacle because there will come a day when your babies are gone and you'll long for those days back. I am down to one kid in the house and it already feels like half of my world is gone. What I wouldn't give for one more school play, field trip, or a push on the swing. It goes by so fast :(

KarMie's blog said...

Thank you for such a lovely reminder to every parent... Especially me!!! I still carry my #2 every now n then but hubby disapproves 😬

I thought it will get easier n less tiring as they grow up?

Jamie chaw

mail4rosey said...

Good luck to her with the exams. I'm glad she has such a dynamic duo supporting her (you and her dad). :) No one can escape the grumpies...they catch up to us all from time to time.

Michelle said...

That's a lovely poem and a good perspective to keep in mind when the day is long and patience is thinning. But what to tell ourselves when we know it won't be the last time and possibly have to go through the same thing 142325343 times more?!

--andy-- said...

Memories, cherish them before they are gone :)
But we do see more parents outsourcing their parenting duties to helpers and mobile devices :(

cheers, Andy

Pooja Kawatra said...

Absolutely dear and I have this feeling every single day when I look back that how fast time flies when my son was born and now he is 9 yrs.

Shub said...

Emotional indeed! Parenting is a continuous journey and I think I still have to learn so much.

Stacy said...

This is sad at first when you think the child has left for some reason, then you get the right meaning... and it's still sad as the child HAS figuratively left.

Anonymous said...

Indeed,we really have a lot to juggle as a modern day parent. Perhaps knowing how long you want to focus will be good for both of you? Like half hr daily without distractions. And zoom in on the essentials then let her do her own revision? Always a learning journey to be kept humble as parents!😅 let's jiayou!There's a season to everything indeed.Great reminder.