Tips from a Busy Working Mama | Learn to Delegate Tasks

I think one of the hardest thing to do is to say "I can't do this" or "I need help". It's mostly because of pride I guess. If somebody else can handle it, why can't I? It's almost as if we are admitting defeat when we say we can't complete all our tasks, when all motivational posters seem to point in the way of "never give up in life". When do we decide to trudge on despite the obstacles, and when do we decide to throw in the towel?

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As a mother, we have a lot to juggle. We have to run a household, manage our careers, relationships and everything in between. I'm not just talking about working mums like me with jobs outside, but for all mums because for some, their KPIs might be to finish all household chores by the time their kids wake up from afternoon naps, or get from ballet class to swimming class within an hour. All mums are "working full-time" in one way or another.

However, even as mums, we need to realise that not everything has to be on our shoulders to bear, not all problems have to be ours to fix. Learn to let go, and most of all, learn to delegate your tasks. I took a long time to learn this, but admitting we are struggling is not a sign of failure. In fact, it shows strength in holding on to what's important to us, and knowledge in prioritisation. 

I've recognised that I've been feeling quite tired lately. My mind is in a constant whirl, and I'm having more mood-swings than usual {sorry dear hubby and Lil Pumpkin!}. Some days I woke up defeated and just wanted to go back to bed, and some nights I cried myself to sleep. Even I missed my cheerful, happy self bursting with energy.. what more Lil Pumpkin??

I thought through it carefully and realised that I was taking on to much, and decided that some things needed to change, especially for the new year. What better time to start afresh, right? I didn't want to be exhausted all the time, and not have the energy to be completely present with my family.

Other than cutting back on blog events and work, recently, I got the boy to help out even more with our household chores. Like really dedicate time to doing more manual chores like cleaning the restrooms, vacuuming / mopping the floors, wiping the windows etc. I thought about getting a part-time helper, but the boy {understandably} still doesn't like having strangers in our home, so he's willing to help take some burden off me in running the household. A clean, decluttered home certainly helps in freeing the mind as well.

We'll also start Lil Pumpkin on sleepovers with her grandma too, about once a month. This gives the boy and me time to reconnect as a couple and build on our husband-wife relationship {important foundation for a family}, time to run some errands that's easier without a child tagging along, and some precious me-time. As a parent, we do want to spend every other free time with Lil Pumpkin, but these time without her are just as important to recharge and come back energised to be with her, and I mean to be completely present with her, and not have our minds on other things like work.

I don't want to burn out. Struggles are part of our life story, but it's probably wise to learn to choose your battles to enjoy the things worth fighting for.

New year, new beginnings xox

Do you feel exhausted too? How would you delegate your tasks?

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